I Don’t Give Myself The Love, Compassion, and Understanding I Give To Others
In the last lesson, you learned that your opinion of yourself is the only one that matters. In this lesson, you’ll see that how you treat yourself matters, too.
You are a compassionate, kind, and loving person. When someone makes a mistake, you are gracious toward them, understanding that everyone makes mistakes.
You are patient with others, giving them time to learn and change. If someone struggles with a particular task or doesn’t make as much progress on a task as expected, you give them grace.
But you don’t treat yourself in the same way.
For some reason, you don’t believe that you deserve the same love, compassion, grace, and understanding that you give to others.
Maybe you were told from a young age that you needed to be perfect. Maybe you’ve somehow unconsciously adopted the idea that you shouldn’t make the same mistakes that others make.
Whatever the case, you are really hard on yourself.
Your limiting belief is that you should be perfect, and if you’re not perfect you feel like you need to punish yourself.
When you make a mistake, you endlessly berate yourself, feeling like you shouldn’t have made it. You’re not compassionate and gracious toward yourself. You don’t love yourself very much. You hold yourself to an impossible standard.
This limiting belief makes you feel like you’re never enough. Like you’re never worthy, never acceptable, never doing enough things. It’s a very unhappy limiting belief.