The disappearance of feelings of anger is not the hallmark of a successful or complete recovery. As you mature emotionally, you develop healthier coping mechanisms that take the place of the anger problem.Understand that when your Anger Management relapses occur, you will have broken through a wall of your own creation that was protecting you . It’s not nearly as strong as it was before you crashed through it; so be alert to the fact that you are much more likely to slip again and will need to make an extra effort to review this workbook. You can take these steps when you experience a relapse:
- Contact people you trust and let them know about your situation. Your honesty with them will help you be honest with yourself and promote your healing.
- Review any Anger Management Practices that might be helpful in the situation.
- Relapse usually means that you have forgotten to implement something of what you have learned. If anger is re-emerging, then you should:
- Re-establish your Anger Log practice
- Re-establish your relaxation and breathing practices
- Begin imagining the problem situation and select and review appropriate coping statements
- Identify any significant dysfunctional thinking (e.g. ‘all or nothing’) that may be triggering the anger, and develop appropriate responses or rebuttals
- Consider doing more significant work with a competent Anger Management Specialist experienced in the areas of anger
- Continue and extend you Anger Management Life Practice