The good news is that emotional intelligence CAN be taught and developed. Here are some tips to get started:
- Observe how you react to people. Do you rush to judgment before you know all of the facts? Do you stereotype others? Look honestly at how you think and interact with other people. Try to put yourself in their place, and be more open and accepting to their perspective and needs.
- Look at your work environment. Do you seek attention for your accomplishments? Humility can be a wonderful quality, and it doesn’t mean that you’re shy or lack self-confidence. When you practice humility, you show that you know what you did, and you can be quietly confident about it. Give others a chance to shine – put the focus on them, and don’t worry too much about getting praise for yourself.
- Do a self evaluation. What are your weaknesses? Are you willing to accept that you’re not perfect and that you could work on some areas to make yourself a better person? Have the courage to look at yourself honestly – it can change your life.
- Examine how you react to stressful situations. Do you become upset every time there’s a delay or something doesn’t happen the way you want? Do you blame others or become angry at the time even when it’s not their fault? The ability to stay calm and in control in different situations is highly valued in the business world and outside of it. Keep your emotions under control when things go wrong.
- Take responsibility for your actions. If you hurt someone’s feelings apologize directly – don’t ignore what you did or avoid the person. People are usually more willing to forgive and forget if you make an honest attempt to make things right.
- Examine how your actions will affect others – before you take those actions. If your decision will impact others, put yourself in their place. How will they feel if you do this? Would you want that experience? If you must take action, how can you help others deal with the effects?